Saturday 19 July 2014

Confusion, Marriage and You!!!

It was a Sunday morning....the phone rang, Ananya gathered some courage, took a deep breath and answered the phone call.
"Hey Ananya, Viraj here...can we meet for dinner tonight? I shall meet you directly at the restaurant, Gold Cafe...sharp at 7.. see you then bye."

Miss Ananya Kumari, born in a middle class family.. MBA from one of top B schools..financially independent women, hails from a family with strong cultural values. Her appearance was one thing that no guy would die for..she was short, plum and had decent looks...but she was smart and talented..sensible and a no nonsense chick. Her strong personality and a bit dominant nature would always attract some attention from her peers and colleagues. She knew how to take care of every one and was always the dominant types. Handling a guy was no big deal for her.

Ananya didn't know what to expect from this meeting. She had no idea about what was coming her way...she went with a clear mind, hoping for the best to happen....her parents had arranged her to meet the Mr. Perfect...Viraj Sen.

The perfect guy any girl would die for....6 feet 3 inches...handsome hunk with flamboyant personality..a guy every parent would wish for their daughter and he was every girls dream....smart talented..an MBA, working with one of the big fours (consultancy firms) in the Top management league...girls, dating and show bizz were his unique characteristics... He agreed to meet Ananya.

The clock struck 7..Anaya was all set, seated at the dinner table...bang on time.. Waiting to meet Viraj. It was now 7.30.....7.45.....and finally Viraj arrived at 8 pm., One hour late!

He entered the restaurant and looked all over the place. He instantly spotted Ananya, walked towards her...

"Hey I'm very sorry, the traffic was horrible....hope you wouldn't mind". Ananya was annoyed. She thought this guy has no decency at all. He walked in late and didn't even bother to inform her ...Well that was the first impression....

"Would you like to order some thing Ma'am? the waiter disrupted her thoughts.. .. "Hmmm oh yes".....Viraj interrupted ..Let's order for dinner and then we can talk at length...I love Chinese, chicken soup..some starters.. whatever you suggest (looking at the waiter) and fried rice would do...is that OK with you Ananya?

"Yes"...she replied sulkly...as if she cared...

With this the waiter left them to themselves....

"So did you like this place.. its pretty awesome..nice and cozy...hmmmm..I love the food here...they make real good Chinese..I hope you will like what I have ordered."

Viraj went on an on...like there was no stopping to his talks....for the first time she felt some one overpowering her...she felt dominated ...as if things were flowing out of her hands....and for the first time she spoke less.

"So Ananya , you are aware of the reason why we are meeting tonight..so let me ask you a few questions."

Few questions my foot....its not an interview darn it...Anaya thought to herself.
Keeping her cool, with a constant smile on her face she was patiently listening and answering all his silly questions (that's what she thought they were).

"What exactly are you looking at?" He asked.

"What do you mean?" that was her reply.

"As in what kind of a guy."

"I want to be with a guy who is not arrogant and who respects women"...a taunt straight on his face.."What about you Viraj?"

He replied "I need a girl who would take care of me and my family..thats it."

He couldn't stop checking her out..She noticed that at first instance ...A rich pink Anarkali, with high heels and a decent jewellery to go with it. Just looked elegant and cute..

The conversation went on ..dinner had finally arrived..and they were done in an hours time.

"Hey you too have a BlackBerry" Viraj said ..sounded pretty excited... "Can we exchange our bbm pin?...let's catch up on bbm."

Saying this he picked up Ananya's phone and scanned her BB pin.

Must admit, this guy was quick, doesn't waste time and knows how to woo a girl smartly.

But It didn't work out that way for Ananya, she had her own ego issues, she was shocked to meet a guy who was so dominant. This was the first guy in her life, whom she couldn't control, he hardly let her speak that evening...On the contrary, he had all the qualities and she couldn't find a valid reason to say no..she couldn't make up her mind whether to go ahead with this or not..He was totally opposite to what she wanted...She felt like two ends meet..He was different, unique and had an X factor...Yet she couldn't decide..she was confused.

For Viraj it was the girl he longed for...he knew her strengths and weaknesses..he instantly had read her on the very first meet...he knew she was the girl for him..he had made up his mind to go ahead with this..His personality, arrogance and flamboyant nature would make any girl go gaga over him but with Anaya he knew this was not the case...In fact she was the first girl in his life who disliked him in the first meet..and he had guessed all this in the entire evening...He had a task now to win her heart and her task was to try and escape from this confused state.

Late that night Anaya received a text msg from Viraj.... 'Hey it was wonderful today...I liked your company and enjoyed every minute spent with you...thanks for such a wonderful evening and keep smiling always coz you look the best when you smile.'

And there began a journey....Anaya confused, not able to decide, wants to say no..the sms changed her mind, may be he is good, should give another chance, don't know what to do...she knew she had to meet him again and again to decide ....

Viraj..... with a mind all clear, slept peacefully, as he had already made the decision of his life..of being with her now and for ever......

So often we are confused when it comes to taking marriage decisions...Just like Ananya we don't think, we become judgmental and take decisions that make our thoughts more complicated...when we are seeing someone, or decide to meet a guy for marriage purposes, we should try and give time to each other....At times you will strike a chord in the first go like Viraj or might take several meetings to say yes  like Anaya...Sometimes we  might end up saying No to the right person or saying yes to the wrong person  (But don't worry, this never happens easily)......Take your time, don't be confused, don't be judgmental, don't make any pre-conceived notations about your partner even before meeting or in the first go....give time and take time...you will figure out easily what you want and will know if the guy is right for you or not...If you are not able to decide anything for yourself, leave it in Gods hands...he will show you the way......

Dedicated to all those who are going through or will go through this phase.....

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